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How soon is too soon to get engaged?
A friend of mine proposed to his wife six weeks after dating her. They were engaged for two years and have been married for 9. The first time he told me that story, I was shocked. Call me old fashioned, but I believe in savoring a relationship, and living with your partner before even considering getting engaged. Because you don't really know someone until you live together. I dated my college boyfriend for three years, we spent one summer living together and at the end of that summer I broke it off because we weren't compatible.
I know for some people it works. You get caught up in the thrill of the relationship and you rush into everything. But even my friends who are now divorced say that they wouldn't rush into a relationship or an engagement.
A friend sent me a text this morning asking if I had heard the good news. Considering this was someone I hadn't talked to in a while, and someone I don't really talk to often, I was surprised when I received a message.
"She proposed and he said yes!"
My ex-best friend met this guy on Match.com in July in Florida. They went out on one date, hooked up that night, and the next morning he left for Texas, where he was stationed (he's in the Army). They haven't seen each other since that night, although they talked via text message and phone frequently. I knew she was going out to see him soon, and I had also known (through word of mouth) that she had applied for a marriage license in the State of Texas. So it wasn't a big shock when this mutual friend of ours told me she had proposed to the guy and is now engaged.
I suppose what I can't wrap my head around is the fact that she completely rushed into this relationship. How do you know you've found "the one" after just one night of being with someone? I don't get it, and maybe I'm not supposed to, but I have always wanted to believe that my ex-best friend was an intelligent person and made decisions that would better her life. I can't support this decision, and I can't help but feel like they are headed for divorce. I just hope they have what it takes to beat the odds.
